Generally speaking, I wake up before my alarm has the chance to ring, however, on this particular morning I couldn’t seem to open both of my eyes at the same time. I heard the alarm and instead of turning it off, I selected snooze…three or 4 times. I didn’t actually fall back to sleep, because each time I knew I was getting nearer and nearer to the time I actually had to leave the house and that thought was making me anxious. Yes, the life coach inside of me knew the easy and best solution would have been to talk to myself about the advantages of getting up, and then sit up, but I simply didn’t.
By the time I did get up I was running late for meeting with one of my favorite non-client groups. Things weren’t progressing particularly well. My watch battery had gone dead, my hair, well let’s not talk about what my hair was doing, and did I mention that I couldn’t find my glasses? I got to the meeting and had to ask one of my friends to set my alarm reminding me of departing time. I couldn’t do it myself because I couldn’t see the teeny, tiny buttons. No glasses means no bifocals, means no clear vision… When I was asked a simple question I was all foggy and it was just about all I could do to speak my name coherently. I sooooooo felt like I needed to go back home and begin my day all over again.
Then it happened, the magic which changed my day. I like the gentleman who was sitting next to me, he’s a bit quiet, means what he says when he does speak and is a man of integrity. In short, I like and respect him and what he has to say. He paid me a compliment. Nothing huge, but a very nice, sincere compliment. My whole day completely changed. Every time I thought about it, I smiled. I felt calmer and more self-confident. From that point on my day went better than I could have imagined.
My point here? Our words have strength, they affect others in ways we often don’t expect or even imagine. hurt someone with a thoughtless or curt comment, damaging their self-esteem and perhaps inflicting long-lasting damage. However, if we offer a sincere smile, a friendly compliment or offer a kind gesture we may change their day. Which of course this person may then pass along to the next person, etc. Hmmm, it seems to me we have the opportunity here to change the entire world, one kind word at a time.
By the way, that compliment I mentioned, it’s almost a week later and it still makes me stand a little straighter and smile. Thank you, my friend.
How very interesting.
My journal entry this morning was related to contemplating the negative effects my words can have on others and suggesting that when I’m upset or angry I ask myself what my motive is in what I’m about to say. If my motive is simply to let someone know I’m upset or angry that’s fine but if my motive is “I’m upset so I’m going to say something that will make you upset”, that’s not fine.
I was also contemplating the idea that when one grows up in an environment with a lot of physical violence then one might, consciously or subconsciously, have an attitude that verbal aggressiveness or a verbal assault is no big thing. Not true.