For instance, we have 3 different places to sit and relax in our backyard. This has been done deliberately because we enjoy the various perspectives. The different places provide different points of view and we really like seeing things that way.
And so I went out with my camera. I took the pics below of only one area. All within 30 of each other and looking at the swing, it changes dramatically.
Isn’t it interesting that we sometimes forget that not everyone is sharing our experience in the same way that we are?
When we are grieving, we quite naturally are very focused on our pain, what we are thinking and feeling. Again, this is natural and so very human.
And yet, even those who are closest to us are seeing and feeling things in their own way.
My husband and I each lost our youngest son and it broke both of our hearts. That’s absolutely true.
At the same time, the relationship each of us had with Mike was unique.
And so was our grieving and healing.
We saw, felt, and experienced from our own perspectives. We shared some sources of support and also each had our own.
Sometimes I felt an incredible lack of support from people that I really would have expected to be there. It hurt – a lot.
The benefit of time and doing deep healing work is that it allows me to realize that each of these people was also having their own experience. They were feeling their own grief at losing Mike and for those who did not know Mike, they were experiencing the loss of me. I was not showing up in the way I had in the past, I was changed.
Perspective. It can be very interesting to take a step back and consider what others might be seeing, thinking, and feeling.
Not to make anyone wrong or right, but rather to broaden our understanding.
Wishing you a day of gentle healing, I am sending you so much love.
Master Grief Coach
Master Grief Coach Trainer
Grief Recovery Method Specialist
We walk this path, through grief and into healing one step at a time. It’s easier when we are accompanied by those with caring hearts.
Your journey through grief and into healing is just that – YOUR journey.
When you are ready to begin your healing journey, reach out to Sandy for your complimentary consultation. Together, we walk through grief, into healing.