You’re So Strong – How does that Land while You’re Grieving?

There was a time, especially early in my grief when that phrase almost brought me to my knees.

Each time I heard it, it felt almost like a physical blow.

To the person who utters these words, with the best of intentions, I have a few thoughts and questions.

You say I’m strong. I say I’m grieving. Can we talk about grief and grieving?

I am strong enough to let the tears of pain and grief flow whenever there is a need.

Are you strong enough to cry with me?

I am strong enough to express my frustration and anger.

Are you strong enough to witness it without trying to fix it?

I am strong enough to realize that at times I cannot do what I used to do.

Are you strong enough to understand?

I am strong enough to admit that I am confused about what I want and need.

Are you strong enough to be patient with me?

I am strong enough to share memories that bring up many emotions. Tears, laughter, anger…

Are you strong enough to listen and share with me?

I am strong enough to not only allow but to embrace and learn to express every emotion that comes along for me.

Are you strong enough to be there?

I am strong enough to embrace healing, one heartbeat at a time.

Are you strong enough to witness those smiles without judgment?

I am strong enough to know that I have made mistakes and will continue to do so.

Are you strong enough to understand and offer compassion?

I am strong enough for all of this and so much more. There will be days of excruciating pain. Moments of grief burst. Times of incredible joy and laughter.

I am strong enough to embrace my life as it continues in a new way.

I AM strong enough to be tender, to feel the deepest sadness as well as the most exhilarating joy. And everything in between.

When you tell me that I’m very strong, I now realize that you are acknowledging me for who and what I am. Someone who is hurting deeply and has the strength to acknowledge every bit of that pain.

I am strong enough to keep breathing. I am strong enough to keep feeling. I am strong enough to grieve and to heal.

My only question my friend is this, are you strong enough to walk this path with me?

If so, we will walk arm in arm. We will sit together for hours. We may speak, cry, argue, sing, laugh, pray, or be very silent. Your companionship makes all of the difference. 

I am strong.

Are you?

Namaste,
Sandy
Master Grief Coach
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