Grieving, feeling the deepest grief.
Whether it is early grief when the fog is heavy and the way forward is often hidden… or further down the path where you are finding a ‘new normal’. There are times, moments, days, or sometimes longer when overwhelm visits.
I have a few thoughts to share that I hope you will find helpful.
– Take a few deep… slow… calming… breaths
You see when we take those deep breaths, it slows down our heart and our mind follows. Even if it’s for a short time, we get that respite. The more we practice, the more natural and easy it comes to us. And the longer the respite lasts.
– Have a plan
Having that plan reminds me that I have a measure of control. It may be small, but it’s something and when we are grieving a loss it often feels that there is much out of our control.
That plan might be to ask a friend or companion to be beside us during a difficult time.
It could be rehearsing saying the name of the one we love, out loud.
The plan might be a phone call to someone who can listen with support and compassion
– Know that however you feel is alright.
There is no need to judge your feelings. They are not wrong, regardless of how painful they may be. Feelings/emotions are simply gauges that indicate to us that an area needs our attention.
– Take a bit of exercise.
It may be a walk or run outside. Yoga or something similar is healthy for your body, mind, and soul.
These are simply a few tools that I suggest to clients and continue to use myself.
These tips are just an offering of love. Please take them or leave them alone, whatever resonates with you.